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I married my wife three years ago and we had a child two years after wedding. Before we married, we actually dated for 5yrs. During this time, we were on a no-sex-before-marriage relationship.
On our wedding night, I realized there was something wrong with either of us, cos the sex didnt go well. I’d thought it was the fatigue caused by the day’s activities.
Subsequently, I noticed that my wife was always shouting and withdrawing from sex each time I penetrated her. I asked her why and she said the sex was painful.
My wife had been in a sexual relationship for almost 10yrs before I met her. I, on the other hand, had only had sex once in my 37 yrs (age I married).
When my wife and I agreed to the no sex before marriage thing, during our period of dating, I started looking forward to our wedding night.
I started fantasising on what sex would be like with my wife. I longed for sex with her.
How did she become pregnant?
Ever since we got married, the kind of sexual intercourse we practiced was one in which I would have to penetrate her ONLY with the tip of my joystick, or She pushed me away.
Achieving full penetration was a mirage for me and it was frustrating and not enjoyable at all! I could not achieve that full penetration cos to her, it was paining her.
That was how we had our sexual intercourse until she informed me she was pregnant. I didn’t question the ownership of the pregnancy cos we are both Believers.
I must sincerely say that it was DURING her pregnancy that I enjoyed sex with her. It was the period she allowed me to achieve that normal, full penetration I craved for.
It was the period she was making those sounds typical of an intercourse. We both paused sex until 3 months after childbirth.
From the time we resumed sex up till now, matters have become worse. This time around, no partial nor full penetration.
All she wanted was for me to just rub my joystick around her vagina and she would cum. This, to me, wasn’t my definition of sex.
It’s a frustrating and nightmarish experience. The sex that I so longed for it now looks like I am married to a woman without a vagina. This situation is killing me softly.
I am dying inside. I don’t know who to discuss this sensitive issue with for advice. Worse still, She told me bluntly that active, penetrative sex is a TURN OFF for her. She prefers passive sex.
My wife doesn’t even allow me to kiss her anymore. I guess she allowed partial penetration before childbirth cos she knew if i didnt penetrate her at all, she wouldnt get pregnant. Is this what I am going to live with the rest of my life?
NB: I had advised her to seek medical help; she said NO and that she didn’t see it as a problem. I also advised her to use Vaseline during intercourse; she insisted it was inimical to her health. All other suggestions brought before her fell on deaf ears.
Please, I Need Your Advice On What To Do?
I will be in the comment section.
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